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The First Year University Dump: How to Know If You’ll Be Next

Ah, it’s that time of year for many. The first real break of university. You’ve gone off to college, you’ve gotten wild at parties, and you either found someone that you really connect with or already have your lover. You two might actually be getting serious, but the sad truth that more people get broken up with over Thanksgiving break (or winter break, for those outside of the U.S.). The only people that know about this sort of thing are those that had relationships in university or those who are currently going to school there. You’ll see that your friends have begun the decent into singlehood, but you’re still standing. How are you supposed to know if you’re next on the dumping list?

Realize that Time Means Nothing

College Helps People Find Who They Are
College Helps People Find Who They Are
It doesn’t matter if you’ve just met while at uni or if you’ve been dating since high school, anyone is eligible for this sad dumpfest. You may be thinking to yourself that you have a longer amount of time under your belt than your friends did, but that can actually make it all the more likely. Face it, at college people tend to blossom and really find out who they are. You might be on the page you both started on, but she’s chapters ahead. If he’s been talking about all of these new things he’s doing, you could be left behind in all of the excitement.

They’re Talking About Other People

University exposes you two to all sorts of new and interesting people
University exposes you two to all sorts of new and interesting people
When your partner starts talking about this really interesting person that they have a lot of classes with whose teaching them really cool things and they never thought a person could be that witty then you might want to be worried. Whether they’re talking about a guy or a girl, they could have a new love interest. University exposes you two to all sorts of new and interesting people, that creates a desire and desires can’t be hidden. Your girlfriend or boyfriend may think that they’re being subtle, but in actuality they’re only telling you that they’re interested in someone else. You, being the person that they do care for on some level, mean a lot to them, so they want to secretly tell you. Don’t jump the gun and act jealous, but definitely address it. Asking if they have a crush on this new person is a legit curiosity, but if he or she acts with anger or guilt then you know the answer.

They Did Something Different…

If you’re at different schools then you might be surprised when your partner comes home with a whole new look going for them. The same surprise can happen if you’re at the same school too, that just means that it happened very fast. This new leaf that they turned is them trying to explore and distance themselves from their old look. It could be that they’ve joined a new crowd and want to fit in or really that they’re just trying to grow apart from what they used to be.

You’re Not in the Plans

Whether they’re heading home or staying at school for break, if you’re not in their plans then you should be scared. Breaks are times to visit family, and if you haven’t been invited over to theirs or gotten a confirmation that their coming to yours, that means that you’re just not even in the picture.

They Ask to Meet on a Certain Day

broken_heartYou could be feeling just fine about what’s going on over the break. Sure, you two haven’t discussed plans, but everything else seems normal. Until you get a text asking if you could meet on the last day of the break. Somewhere public, like a Starbucks or a park. That’s odd, why would they ask you to meet up instead of just hanging out at home or something? It’s because you’re about to get dumped. They’re going back to school, and whether you’re there or not they want to have the freedom to do what they want. That means that your time together has ended, and they chose a public place to do the dumping. If you really think that this is coming, the best way to handle it is to just let it happen. You can’t stop what someone feels, and getting dumped after the first year at university is pretty ritual for a lot of people. They change, they move on, and so should you.


Make Foreplay Exciting Again

Foreplay is something that most couples can’t get enough of in the beginning, but as time goes on it gets forgotten or laid by the wayside in order to get to the grand finale. Whether it’s because sex doesn’t come around as often as it used to or because you don’t feel like you have the time, foreplay needs to become a thing again. Contrary to popular belief, foreplay isn’t just putting your hands down someone’s pants or kissing them in naughty places. There’s a whole world of pre-gaming your sexy time that’s just waiting for you to unlock it. The best way to figure out what you and your partner might like is by getting adventurous and studying up. Try some new things like:

Body Chocolate

Body ChocolateBody chocolate is simply chocolate sauce that’s meant to go on your lover’s body. It doesn’t quite melt as fast, and is often found in pens that accompany other flavors like strawberry or whipped cream. These handy little pens can be used to write naughty messages or to draw out instructions as to what you want your partner to do. Although the idea is to get creative, it can end up leading to a gigglefest when you realize that it totally looks like poop if it gets smeared around before you lick it off. That’s okay, because it just makes things more fun in the bedroom, and that’s never bad.

Sex Toys

Make Foreplay exciting again with sex toys.
Make Foreplay exciting again with sex toys.
Not everyone takes into account how awesome sex toys can be—for both parties involved. Men know that women have various odds and ends hidden away for their private time and guys don’t really touch anything meant for them. This is a shame, because some of the best times to be had involve these toys. Guys—get over whatever fear you might have about using a dildo or vibrator on her. She’s going to like it and if she’s enjoying herself she’s not going to just abandon you for it. You’re a real human being, nothing can replace that. Plus there are some toys that actually go inside of her with you to pleasure everyone all at once. These include some G-spot stimulators (that’s right, it exists) and cock rings that vibrate on her clit. Ladies- realize that your man is never going to buy himself a sex toy and get one for him. At first he’ll probably scoff and say that he doesn’t want to use that, but he’s curious. Bust out a pocket pussy or cock ring on a romantic evening and make it all about him. He’ll love the attention and probably start using it on a regular basis. We all know that guys masturbate when you’re not there, so don’t feel jealous of a toy that helps him feel even better.

Flavored Lube

Flavored lubes aren’t just to keep her wet, they can be used during oral to create a unique warming sensation or just taste good. Some of them tingle a little bit while others get warm, but they all make oral a little more interesting. If you’re having trouble going down on your partner because of smells or tastes, then this might be a good way to help out with that. The lube is put on the clit or around the head of the penis so that it works most affectively. There are a whole slew of flavors to try out, so get a sampler pack and make a weekend of it.

Change Up the Location

Not all exciting foreplay ideas have to be some new twist on the same old thing. It can be something as simple as changing up the location. Taking a break in the kitchen to put her up on a counter and go downtown can make you both feel spontaneous and like you’re doing something you shouldn’t. Surprise him while he’s taking a shower by opening the door or curtain and immediately going down on him. Don’t say anything as he takes in the surprise. Be careful: You might get wet in more ways than one.

Caress Each Other

Caress Each Other to improve your foreplay
Caress Each Other to improve your foreplay
Caressing isn’t something that we think about actively, but it’s a great feeling on anyone’s skin. Guys love the feeling of being touched just as much as women do, so soften those strokes and touch each other more. Adding this little detail into the foreplay will make you both feel closer to each other and up the sizzle in your routine.


Should You Really Shave for Your Boyfriend’s Benefit?

Having a boyfriend is usually high maintenance, and it comes with a lot of compromises. One of the things your boyfriend has probably been pushing you to do is shave. Whether your boyfriend is pushing you to shave your legs, armpits, or genitals, you may be wondering if it is really worth it shave for his benefit. Pretty much every guy loves to make demands like this, but is it really worth it to shave just for him? This is a question you may not have ever been asking yourself, but it is one you should be considering. Just because your boyfriend is asking you to shave does not mean you have to. Here’s what you should be thinking about if your boyfriend has really been pushing you to shave for his benefit.

Why Bother if Not for Your Own Benefit?

Do It For Your Own Benefit
Do It For Your Own Benefit
First of all, why bother shaving if you are not the one who wants to do it? If you are not going to benefit from shaving, then there’s really no reason for you to do it. Sure, you may benefit in the fact that he might like it more, but you will personally not benefit from your sudden hairlessness. This is really something you should really be keeping in mind. Why bother going through all the trouble of shaving if it is not for your own personal benefit? If you like how it feels or how it looks, then go hog wild! But if you are just doing it for your boyfriend’s benefit, you should really be looking at the reasons why you are doing so. Is it really worth it to go through all that trouble just for your boyfriend to be a little more comfortable? Chances are he may not even know why he is more attracted to the shaved look, so it’s really important for you to think about it carefully.

The Reasons You Shouldn’t Bother

no_shave_girlLet’s be real. Shaving is a gigantic pain in the ass, or wherever you are deciding to shave. Shaving your legs or armpits is usually not that big of a deal, but in a very delicate and complicated area like the genitals, you are just asking for trouble. Shaving by yourself can be extremely difficult, and you could wind up nicking yourself in the goods. Not fun. Not only that, but most people have hair that grows in quite quickly. You might experience a couple hours of smooth skin, but is that worth it? Not to mention, the ingrown hairs can be extremely painful and nobody likes to see that.

Compromising if You Must

If your boyfriend is really insisting on it, you may want to compromise. Getting a wax is a lot better than shaving because it is going to leave you a smoother skin and much less chance of ingrown hairs. You can always make him pay for it if he’s really insistent, and then he can have his cake and eat it too. You just won’t have to pay for it.