Make Foreplay Exciting Again

Foreplay is something that most couples can’t get enough of in the beginning, but as time goes on it gets forgotten or laid by the wayside in order to get to the grand finale. Whether it’s because sex doesn’t come around as often as it used to or because you don’t feel like you have the time, foreplay needs to become a thing again. Contrary to popular belief, foreplay isn’t just putting your hands down someone’s pants or kissing them in naughty places. There’s a whole world of pre-gaming your sexy time that’s just waiting for you to unlock it. The best way to figure out what you and your partner might like is by getting adventurous and studying up. Try some new things like:

Body Chocolate

Body ChocolateBody chocolate is simply chocolate sauce that’s meant to go on your lover’s body. It doesn’t quite melt as fast, and is often found in pens that accompany other flavors like strawberry or whipped cream. These handy little pens can be used to write naughty messages or to draw out instructions as to what you want your partner to do. Although the idea is to get creative, it can end up leading to a gigglefest when you realize that it totally looks like poop if it gets smeared around before you lick it off. That’s okay, because it just makes things more fun in the bedroom, and that’s never bad.

Sex Toys

Make Foreplay exciting again with sex toys.
Make Foreplay exciting again with sex toys.
Not everyone takes into account how awesome sex toys can be—for both parties involved. Men know that women have various odds and ends hidden away for their private time and guys don’t really touch anything meant for them. This is a shame, because some of the best times to be had involve these toys. Guys—get over whatever fear you might have about using a dildo or vibrator on her. She’s going to like it and if she’s enjoying herself she’s not going to just abandon you for it. You’re a real human being, nothing can replace that. Plus there are some toys that actually go inside of her with you to pleasure everyone all at once. These include some G-spot stimulators (that’s right, it exists) and cock rings that vibrate on her clit. Ladies- realize that your man is never going to buy himself a sex toy and get one for him. At first he’ll probably scoff and say that he doesn’t want to use that, but he’s curious. Bust out a pocket pussy or cock ring on a romantic evening and make it all about him. He’ll love the attention and probably start using it on a regular basis. We all know that guys masturbate when you’re not there, so don’t feel jealous of a toy that helps him feel even better.

Flavored Lube

Flavored lubes aren’t just to keep her wet, they can be used during oral to create a unique warming sensation or just taste good. Some of them tingle a little bit while others get warm, but they all make oral a little more interesting. If you’re having trouble going down on your partner because of smells or tastes, then this might be a good way to help out with that. The lube is put on the clit or around the head of the penis so that it works most affectively. There are a whole slew of flavors to try out, so get a sampler pack and make a weekend of it.

Change Up the Location

Not all exciting foreplay ideas have to be some new twist on the same old thing. It can be something as simple as changing up the location. Taking a break in the kitchen to put her up on a counter and go downtown can make you both feel spontaneous and like you’re doing something you shouldn’t. Surprise him while he’s taking a shower by opening the door or curtain and immediately going down on him. Don’t say anything as he takes in the surprise. Be careful: You might get wet in more ways than one.

Caress Each Other

Caress Each Other to improve your foreplay
Caress Each Other to improve your foreplay
Caressing isn’t something that we think about actively, but it’s a great feeling on anyone’s skin. Guys love the feeling of being touched just as much as women do, so soften those strokes and touch each other more. Adding this little detail into the foreplay will make you both feel closer to each other and up the sizzle in your routine.


The Disadvantages of Having a Competitive Workplace

Fostering the correct type of workplace to help your company or business succeed is a very important thing to do, but it is not always easy. Any people will tell you that you need to have a competitive workplace in order to have any chance of succeeding. Despite what most people will tell you, this is just not true. The fact of the matter is that there are definitely disadvantages to having a competitive workplace. It is an all sunshine and roses. If you are trying to create a high quality workplace environment, the competitive workplace may not be the right choice for you. This is something that you need to understand so that you can make the best decision possible for your company or business. You really need to understand what sorts of things are going to be good for your company and what sorts of things are not going to be helpful. The competitive workplace environment might be one of those things that is not going to be right for you. Here are some of the disadvantages that come with having a competitive workplace.

It Adds a Ton of Tension

A Stressed Employee's Work Will Suffer
A Stressed Employee’s Work Will Suffer
One of the main disadvantages of having a competitive workplace is that it generally creates a lot of tension in the workplace environment. This is just not a good thing, because it makes your employees feel like they are constantly struggling for survival and struggling to keep their job. This may seem ideal to you, but in the end is just going to lead to lower productivity levels and a lot of stress in the environment. The more stressed your employees are, the worse their work will be. This is not something that you can afford to have happened to you, which is why a competitive workplace may not be the best choice for you. All the tension between your employees is going to lead to arguments and strife, which means that they will not be spending that time working.

It Can Lead to Your Employees Getting Burnt Out

Burnt EployeeAnother reason why competitive workplaces are not always the best idea is because it can easily lead to your employees getting burnt out. If your employees are burnt out, the quality of their work is going to take a severe hit and they are not going to be interested in working harder to help your company or business succeed. Since they are struggling so hard to be the best they can possibly be due to the competitive nature of their workplace, your employees will burn out quite easily and not be able to recover. This is the exact opposite of what you want to happen inside of your workplace, so it is not always a good idea to be that competitive.

It Breeds Contempt and Strife

Competitive workplaces tend to breed contempt and strife
Competitive Workplaces Breed Contempt & Strife
Competitive workplaces tend to breed contempt and strife not only between your employees themselves, but between you and your employees. Your employees will be fighting with each other all the time, which is going to lead to tons of tension and strife. Plus, they may begin to resent you and be unhappy with you as a boss. This is just asking for trouble because it leads to so many issues. The fact that your employees will not be getting along due to the competitive nature of the workplace is just going to make it even more difficult for you to manage things.

It Makes Employees Resent You and Your Position

If you really push a competitive workplace, it could easily lead to your employees growing resentful of you and your position. Since you are the one demanding that they compete with each other, they could start to turn against you or at least stop taking you seriously. This kind of mutiny is just going to lead your company to failure, so you need to be very careful of this sort of thing. Never give your employees reason to resent you.


How Much Hard Drive Space Do You Really Need

When you’re shopping for a new computer, there are a few things that differentiate the models. There’s the manufacturer, obviously, but on top of that there’s the screen size, the processor power, and…the hard drive space. In case you don’t know, hard drive space equates to the amount of room there is to store things on the computer, whether that’s installed programs or your own files that you create and save to the computer. It’s easy to want to go big or go home and get the computer with the most storage space just because you can. Hey, you might need it, right? That’s not the best idea, though, especially if you’re shopping on a budget. Logically, more hard drive space is going to set you back even more when it comes to price. With that in mind, you have to step back and take a long, hard look at how much hard drive space you really need and there are two important things to consider.

What Your Budget Is

External Drives Offer A Cheap Solution
External Drives Offer A Cheap Solution
If you’re shopping on a budget, it can be tempting to go for the lowest-priced computer because it saves you the most money. Unfortunately, the bottom tier of computers isn’t always your best bet even if the hard drive space seems reasonable and every other spec on the computer checks out. Considering your budget doesn’t necessarily mean buying the cheapest model. It means not spending too much on a computer with extra hard drive space you don’t need and it means not cutting corners and missing out on valuable storage space. Of course, if you already have an external hard drive or plan to store many things in the cloud or backed up in other ways, you can opt for a cheaper computer with less storage space. As with any electronic, it’s all about shopping smart and knowing what’s going to work out the best for you.

What You’re Storing

Some People Don't Need A Lot Of Storage Space
Some People Don’t Need A Lot Of Storage Space
The most important thing to consider when you’re looking at hard drive space on a prospective computer purchase is what you’re going to be keeping on there. If you’re intending the computer as a machine to take with you on short trips when you’ll only be storing a few files for a presentation or just enough to maintain you away from your office, you can get away with a computer that has a small amount of hard drive space and you shouldn’t run into any problems. On the other hand, if you’re planning on using the computer to play video games and store saved game data or as the main place you edit and store the high-quality photos you take, you’re going to want a computer with lots of hard drive space so you don’t have to buy even more external hard drives or other forms of media backup in the end to store the files you don’t have room for. Additionally, if you’re planning to install a lot of programs it’s best to have a buffer so you’re not running out of space for your actual saved files.


Tips for Overcoming Social Anxiety at the Gym

It’s hard enough to motivate yourself to go to the gym on a regular basis. Add in a healthy dose of social anxiety and it becomes almost impossible. The hardest part of going to the gym is actually getting to the gym, and overcoming all of the insecurities that come with the trip. If you’ve found yourself struggling to even get yourself there, and wanting to run back home the whole time you’re there, then this little guide is for you. Even if you thought it was impossible to ever enjoy yourself at the gym, you too can have fun and get a great workout at the same time. Your social anxiety shouldn’t hold you back from being healthy, so follow these steps and get it into gear.

Pep Talks

Motivate yourself to go on a regular basis
Motivate yourself to go on a regular basis
Before you go, spend some time prepping yourself for the trip. At first, only plan for small trips. Give yourself a manageable timeframe to deal with, and go from there. Start with maybe half an hour at the gym two times a week. As you get ready to head there, give yourself a small pep talk. Your biggest supporter should be yourself, so make sure you know how much you believe in yourself. Take your time, and tell yourself that you can do this. Going to the gym is for your own health and general wellbeing, and even though it’s going to make you anxious, it’ll pay off in the long run. Also make sure to remind yourself to not make comparisons. You are not the buff guy at the gym or the hot girl on the treadmill, so don’t compare yourself to them. They have their own bodies and have made progress in their own ways, and you need to focus on your own progress. Once you go to the gym for a while, you’ll see results and you can compare them to how you were when you started.


Use Headphones at the gymIf you feel like you’re getting stares when you go to the gym and have a hard time focusing on your actual workout, try some headphones. Playing your own music can help you get in the zone while you’re working out, and it keeps you from paying attention to the other people around you. Keep in mind that these people are here for themselves. They don’t go to the gym to stare at you, and they’re too busy with their own workouts to worry about how you almost dropped that weight or if you look awkward in that stance. Creating your own playlist that lasts a set amount of time can also help motivate you. Use upbeat songs that keep your energy levels high, and wind them down near the end of your workout. You can always add more songs as you make your trips longer, and most people with social anxiety find it much easier to cope when outside noises are taken away. Earbuds work best for the gym, and even better is how they function like earplugs to block out external stimuli that might be distracting.

Going With Friends

Go With A Group Of Friends
Go With A Group Of Friends
Going anywhere alone can be hard when you have social anxiety, so if you can get a group of friends or even just one to go with you it’ll help for sure. Just explain to them that you would really love to hit the gym every once in a while to lose weight and improve your health, and that you would appreciate having a buddy to come with you. Who knows, maybe that friend has been looking for an excuse to work out and just hasn’t started doing it yet. Bringing someone else with you will keep you motivated to keep going as long as they do, and it’ll keep you on track with your weight loss goals. Having friends at the gym also makes going seem less like a chore and more like a fun outing with your friend. Try it out, it’s guaranteed to make a huge difference for you.